WHAT would you do if you found out your partner had had a fling with your parent?
Taking to Reddit to share his story, the post was titled: “I slept with my girlfriend’s mum two years ago. I can’t tell her because I know she’ll dump me and it’ll probably end her parent’s marriage.”
The worried young land explained how the situation was “eating [him] alive”.
Picture this: a couple of years back, aged 19 he “met a woman whilst working as a personal trainer”.
The lady in question was in her 40s, but “looked like a 25 year old”.
She “took an interest” in the young lad and “invited [him] out a number of times”. They also “had sex a few times”.
But, after one meet-up, the older woman said “it was wrong for someone of her age to be with” someone younger and decided to leave the gym and exercise elsewhere.
Fast forward to the present day, and the young lad has been enjoying a year-long relationship with an “amazing” girl with whom he “loves very much”.
But when he met her family for the time time, he was “shocked”.
He said: “She took me to the house where I had hooked up with a woman and I felt like I was being pranked.
“Before I see her mum, it hits me.
“I have a type and they both fit that type so it make sense – I’ve been hooking up with a single mum and I’m now with her daughter.”
But that wasn’t the reality, the “single mum” he thought he had enjoyed a fling with a few years back – was in fact married.
“Then her mum and dad pop out and we both almost s**t ourselves,” he remarked.
“I meet her [is girlfriend’s] parents, [and get told] they’ve been married for 20 years.
“I realise I had been a married woman’s toy boy, I feel incredibly ashamed.”
After a very awkward encounter, it isn’t until later in the week when he has a conversation with the older woman – his girlfriend’s mother.
She gets hold of his number and tells him they cannot speak of their fling.
“She says that my girlfriend will hate me forever because I’ll be the one who broke up her parents. So now I’m stuck keeping this secret,” the Reddit post continued.
To make matters worse, the young lad was then invited to spend Thanksgiving with his girlfriend’s family, and since his own family live 1000 miles away, he doesn’t have an excuse not to go.
I realise I had been a married woman’s toy boy, I feel incredibly ashamed.
Redditor
He said: “I [had] to sit there at a table and enjoy Thanksgiving dinner with the woman I had an affair with, her husband, and her daughter whom I am now in love with.”
The OP got lots of comments, with some useful advice.
One replied: “Damn. The mother is certainly projecting and deflecting her guilt into you. Not your fault my dude. The guilt isn’t yours to shoulder.”
Someone replied to this comment with: “Agreed. Your gf would be upset w her mom more than anything.”
Another remarked: “She’ll [your girlfriend] be more pissed with you if this comes out years from now…
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“I don’t know, but if you’re serious about the girl, she might need to know before too long.”
Someone else had similar thoughts: “GF will notice the awkwardness between you and her mom and for no reason in her eyes and she’ll dig and dig until it comes out and then, my friend, is where it’ll become really bad because you were holding out on telling her.
“Whatever you did before her is not her concern and you didn’t know the mom was married, so do not let the mom control the rest of your relationship with GF because believe me, it will get a lot worse.
“I’d talk to GF and tell her what happened now because that relationship IS OVER.
“Might as well finish it now before there’s more feelings or even a child together and then s**t hits the fan.
“And you never know, maybe GF will not blame you at all.
“But definitely tell her my friend. You have done nothing wrong here so why should you carry that tremendous amount of guilt.”
What advice would you give to a friend in this situation? Or if you were the girlfriend, would you want to know?
