WHEN Tobi-Jayne Cadbury’s boyfriend mentioned his ex was an Army Major, she didn’t give it a second thought.
But just one day after the couple were photographed together in June 2022, the successful lawyer started receiving dozens of anonymous social media messages.
The abuse started when Tobi-Jayne began dating SAS hero Chris Craighead[/caption]
Chris Craighead told Tobi-Jayne that he and Jen had split in 2018 after four years together, having discovered after a year of dating that Jen was married[/caption]
Her partner – a decorated SAS hero known as Christian Craighead, who uses a pseudonym to protect his identity – was also being targeted.
The abuse quickly turned sinister.
It became clear the messages were coming from Christian’s ex, Army officer Major Jennifer Wilson.
At first the messages to Tobi-Jayne – a descendant of chocolate legend John Cadbury – were oddly pleasant. One simply said: “Have a nice day.”
But just three days later, after Tobi-Jayne blocked the account, the abuse exploded.
One message branded her a “fat c***.” Another called her an “uneducated sl*t,” while many fixated on her looks and sex life.
Tobi-Jayne, 38, shares her shocking story – which has chilling echoes of the Baby Reindeer case that inspired a hit Netflix series – in this week’s podcast episode of The Speakmans’ Hope Clinic, out Thursday.
Speaking ahead of it, she tells The Sun: “It was relentless and terrifying. Jen was like the worst possible kind of playground bully. There were no lengths to which she wouldn’t go, it was almost impressive.”
“She’d be messaging from just gone 6am to gone midnight.
“One even read that she wouldn’t stop ‘until one of us dies’. I still believe she will come for me.”
Christian, now 47, told her he and Jen had split in 2018 after four years together, having discovered after a year of dating that Jen was married.
She’d promised to leave her husband but never did, so he ended it.
Despite staying with her husband, Jen seemed consumed with rage over Christian’s latest relationship.
On July 4, 2022, Tobi-Jayne reported the abuse to police, and the case was referred to Thames Valley Police, as Jen was living in Buckinghamshire.
But things were already spiralling.
On July 10th, while out for dinner, Tobi-Jayne’s phone pinged with a message from a fake account called Ratters7553.
The sickening message said: “Awww cute. I f***ed him there too. Rode him til he was dry.”
Jen also sent Tobi-Jayne nude photos of Christian – taken during their relationship.
Sick twist
The case has been compared to a real life ‘Baby Reindeer’[/caption]
Tobi-Jayne alerted police – but claims she was left gobsmacked when a police officer informed her there was nothing they could do because “it was a picture of a man not a woman”.
Then, in August, police called Tobi-Jayne with an extraordinary update. Jen had walked into a police station – and reported Tobi-Jayne for stalking HER.
She says: “She had set up fake accounts in my name so she could send herself abusive messages and point the finger at me.
“But her plan backfired. Police saw on their system she was being investigated. They arrested her and took her phone.”
It was becoming a game… Jen was basically saying, ‘I’m never leaving you’
Tobi-Jayne Cadbury
But within 24 hours of being bailed, Jen was back online.
Tobi-Jayne says: “Police later discovered she had set up 52 social media accounts to harass me.
“I would block one account and within 20 to 45 minutes the messages were coming from a new one.
“I soon realised it was becoming a game. Jen was basically saying, ‘I’m never leaving you.’
“I pretended I hadn’t seen it. I never replied – which was so important in court later to prove her guilt – but I saw absolutely everything.”
Chris has now gone on to become a bodyguard for President Trump[/caption]
Jen’s obsession only deepened. She messaged Tobi-Jayne’s mum, impersonated her brother, and even donated to her niece’s GoFundMe page — just to leave cruel messages.
She says: “She liked to torment me. She wanted me to know what she’d done.
“My Twitter handle is @LegallyCadbury. One day I had a new follower and it was me – the same name.
“I couldn’t understand it because you can’t have duplicate account names on Twitter.
“I sent a screenshot of it to a friend. Straight away he told me to zoom in on the double ‘l’ in the word ‘Legally’. Jen had replicated my username by using capital ‘i’s.
“She had cloned my account so she could send herself abusive messages pretending they were from me again.
“It was so calculating, clever and manipulative. I even got paranoid at one point, wondering if she could actually convince the police of her lies and frame me.”
Violated
In November 2023, Jen – still on bail – was arrested again at Gatwick Airport after flying back from Marrakesh with her husband.
Police raided her home and found hidden SIM cards, including one tucked inside a photo frame.
But one of the worst moments came in January 2024.
“I was sitting on the sofa when a Twitter notification pinged,” Tobi-Jayne says.
“One of Jen’s fake accounts had posted a photo. It was my driveway.
“My mum tried to reassure me and convince me otherwise, bless her, but it was clearly mine. There was even the small pothole I drive over every day in the foreground.
My home is my safe space… now even that wasn’t safe anymore because Jen had found me
Tobi-Jayne Cadbury
“It was one of the most petrifying moments. I live in the middle of the countryside. My neighbours are sheep. I am not on the electoral roll and you can’t find me on 192.com.
“My home is my safe space and now even that wasn’t safe anymore because Jen had found me.
“Police were later able to establish she had taken it at 4am a month before.
“She had even broken bail, which she was out on at the time, to drive hours to my house.
“She wanted me to be scared and now she’d found me and that was the last part of my privacy gone.”
In April 2024, police obtained a full download of Wilson’s phone data.
It revealed she had hired private investigators to follow Tobi-Jayne for four months.
Jen was arrested and charged with stalking with fear of violence and perverting the course of justice – for sending herself messages under fake accounts.
She was remanded to Bronzefield Women’s Prison – where serial killer Rose West was once held – but was released after a month due to a family illness.
In June 2024, at Aylesbury Crown Court, Jen pleaded guilty to harassment and malicious communications.
She avoided jail, but was handed a 10-year restraining order, 100 hours of unpaid work, and a community order. She has also since been forced to leave the Army.
But for Tobi-Jayne, the fear hasn’t gone away.
Speaking to life change experts Nik and Eva Speakman, Tobi-Jayne reveals just how deeply it still affects her.
She tells their podcast: “It is terrifying knowing that somebody hates you so much – someone that’s never met you – and can never leave you alone and will always be stalking.
She is so obsessive that I am sure she wants to wear my skin and she would enjoy capturing me and torturing me
Tobi-Jayne Cadbury
“Someone cut me up in traffic a few weeks ago and I thought, ‘Is that a private detective?’ It’s always going to be there.”
She fears becoming another name on the list of women killed by stalkers – like Gracie Spinks, 23, who was murdered in 2021 after repeatedly asking police for help.
She tells them: “You just hope that it doesn’t get so bad that it turns into a Gracie Spinks or something – one of these stories that we hear where the stalking turns into a murder.
“It’s something I constantly think about.”
Tobi-Jayne’s home is now fortified. Every door is alarmed. She carries a police panic alarm and shares her live location with friends.
She tells The Sun: “Every single day, Jen is always there. Jen will never leave me because her hatred for me is so ingrained. The Judge said at the ruling ‘this is a clear case of jealousy’.
“Thames Valley Police told me that she will be back because from her phone they could see her obsession and I wholeheartedly believe she will be.
“I’ve never met her, that I’m aware of, but often wonder if she has passed me or has been able to get close to me.
“She is so obsessive that I am sure she wants to wear my skin and she would enjoy capturing me and torturing me.”
Lasting trauma
Tobi-Jayne is now dating former long term best-friend Lee Brennan from 90s boyband 911[/caption]
Less than one in ten stalking cases ends up in court
LESS than one in ten stalking cases ends up in court, official police figures reveal.
Statistics show the number of cases soared from 69,200 in 2020 to 131,200 last year.
But police charged someone in just 11,039 cases, with only 2,196 people being convicted of stalking.
Of those just 663 were jailed.
There were another 1,271 cases where the stalker was given a caution.
And 939 offences ended with community resolution — where the suspect accepts responsibility and makes an apology.
But in most cases, a total of 115,127, police threw in the towel as they could not track down the suspect or collect enough evidence.
Another 287 were also scrapped as authorities felt they were not in the public interest.
Stars including Cheryl Tweedy and Shirley Ballas have been victims of stalkers.
The National Police Chiefs’ Council said: “We are working closely with the Home Office, College of Policing and other criminal justice partners to improve outcomes for victims and ensure a consistent response in stalking cases.”
Tobi-Jayne is receiving ongoing therapy for PTSD.
“I’ve had nightmares about what Jen will do because I know she won’t stop,” she says.
“In them, she’s shaving my head, pulling my fingernails off.
“She is going to come for me and that is literally how I see this playing out. This is why I’m never alone.”
Tobi-Jayne left her previous job after Jen emailed her boss. She has since launched her own successful private client law firm.
Despite supporting each other through the ordeal, Tobi-Jayne and Christian later split after he was seconded abroad to become Trump’s personal bodyguard.
Now, she’s found love with long-term best friend Lee Brennan, from 90s boyband 911. The pair connected online in 2020 and became a couple in 2024.
She did everything to try to destroy me but ultimately the only person she has destroyed is herself
Tobi-Jayne
She says: “I won’t let Jen ruin me. I have a good life. Jen wants to destroy me but I won’t just disappear. I’ll continue to use social media and go out and find success in my career.
“You have to try and move on but Thames Valley Police tell me she will never stop.
“I do think justice has been done because her entire career – everything she’s worked for – is gone. I actually feel nothing but pity for her.
“She did everything to try to destroy me but ultimately the only person she has destroyed is herself.”
Hear Tobi-Jayne speaking to Nik and Eva on The Speakmans Hope Clinic, by Audio Always, from this Thursday at TheSpeakmansPod.com.
Tobi-Jayne and Chris’s relationship ended when he was seconded to the US[/caption]
What to do if you are being stalked
By Emma Kenny, true crime physiologist
Whether the signals are subtle or glaring, trust your instincts. Keep records of suspicious incidents, inform people you trust, and don’t hesitate to reach out for professional and legal help if you believe you’re in danger.
Your safety is paramount, no one has the right to make you feel unsafe in your own life. Stalking is illegal.
If you think you are in danger or being stalked, report it to the police immediately – you have a right to feel safe in your home and workplace.
Call 999 if you or someone else is in immediate danger.
You can get advice from the National Stalking Helpline.
National Stalking Helpline
Telephone: 0808 802 0300
Monday to Friday, 9:30am to 4pm (except Wednesday 9:30am to 8pm) National Stalking Helpline
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