DEAR DEIDRE: THERE is a young woman who catches the train every day from the station where I’m the guard – and I’m longing to ask her out.
She looks about 25 and is so pretty. I’m 23 and was immediately drawn to her.
I make a point of saying good morning as she passes through the station. She always gives me such a warm smile in return.
I’ve worked at the same station since I finished my apprenticeship.
The lads from the station tell me I should invite her for a drink but I’m worried that if she doesn’t like me, she’ll think I’m harassing her.
I could be reported to my manager for chatting to a passenger during work time.
I’m new to all this. I’ve never asked anyone out before. Can you help?
DEIDRE SAYS: Why not make small talk next time you see her. That way, she will know you are interested.
The fact she smiles is a good sign. Be ready for the fact that she may have a partner or may not want a relationship – but if you don’t ask her out, you’ll never know.
It couldn’t be seen as wasting time on the job, or harassment, simply to ask her to meet you for a coffee out of working hours.
You may be taking “customer relations” to the next level but what is wrong with that?
If there’s a spark when you chat, think about taking things further by arranging a date.
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