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My new girlfriend is in Alcoholics Anonymous but I don’t want to quit drinking

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DEAR DEIDRE: I WANT to support my new girlfriend through the Alcoholics Anonymous 12 Step programme, but preferably without quitting booze.

She’s 26 and I’m 27.

We went to the same school but we were very different: She was dancing on tables in pubs, I was focused on ­college and work.

I bumped into her again recently.

She had calmed down and looked great.

We started dating and it’s going well.

But she just told me she is teetotal and working through the AA steps.

I want to support her but I love drinking when I go out.

Do I have to quit?

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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s great your girlfriend is working on her alcohol addiction.

There’s no pressure on you to give up totally too, but be mindful that drink­ing around her, especially at home, will make it harder for her.

Al-anonuk.org.uk (0800 0086 811) supports the partners and families of alcoholics and runs support groups online and in-person.

And my support pack Dealing With A Problem Drinker has more advice.

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My son was sent home from university & is being investigated for sexual misconduct

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY son was so excited to start university in September.

Now he has been sent home because another student accused him of sexual misconduct.

The police aren’t involved – the university is conducting its own investigation.

While it’s happening, my son isn’t allowed to visit the campus and he has to do his learning online.

He’s only 18 and he is terrified.

Everyone in his dorm went to a party just before Christmas.

He met a girl there. She was very drunk and all of her friends had left.

My son was concerned for her safety so he offered to walk her home.

They got to her room and she passed out on the bed.

He stayed overnight because he was worried she would choke on vomit in her sleep.

In the morning, they were intimate.

My son says it was consensual but she’s saying he took advantage of her while she was still drunk.

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I believe my son is innocent, but I feel powerless to help him.

He is becoming withdrawn and I’m scared he is sinking into depression.

DEIDRE SAYS: Universities have the power to conduct investigations into alleged crimes, including sexual misconduct.

While these aren’t criminal inquiries, their findings can be passed on to the police.

I understand why you’re worried but this is a time for action, not panic.

Firstly, ensure your son contacts his GP about his mental health. It might help for him to get counselling or medication to ward off the risk of depression.

Then ask his university for an update on the investigation. They have to be transparent, so ensure you find out who is conducting it and how long it will take.

Tell your son to keep any evidence of that night. He should not contact the girl or use social media to talk about the incident. And look into getting legal advice.

Contact the False Allegations Support Organisation (false-allegations.org.uk, 03335 779 377) for free, confidential advice.
FASO helps people who have been accused of criminal behaviour, plus their families and friends.

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My widowed dad sent his online girlfriend £35,000 but won’t admit it’s a scam

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DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH my elderly dad is convinced he has met the perfect woman online, I’m sure he’s being scammed.

Dad is 75. He was widowed when my mum died six years ago.

He seemed lonely and depressed, so I encouraged him to get out and socialise again.

Soon after, he told me he had met a beautiful younger woman online.

Alarm bells rang when he said she was 29 and in the photos he showed us, she was stunning.

Dad said she was in the Philippines but that they messaged every day.

About 18 months ago, Dad said she was on her way to visit him in the UK.

He cleaned his house from top to bottom and bought her roses and chocolates.

She never arrived.

According to Dad, she is still travelling. Apparently, she keeps running into problems at different airports.

Currently, she is stranded in Romania. Every time she gets stuck, he sends her money to buy a new visa or cover her legal bills.

He initially refused to say how much he’d spent. Then I spotted a final demand for his electricity, and he admitted he has sent her all his savings (£35,000) and is now in the process of releasing equity out of his house.

No matter how often I warn him he’s being scammed, he won’t hear it.

I copied her photo and looked her up online. The photo she’s using belongs to a completely different person.

I am so worried about my dad. He is a very stubborn man and simply refuses to believe that this is fake.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your dad is refus­ing to accept he has been scammed because he hates the idea of feeling lonely and unloved again. Even a fake girlfriend is better than none.

My support pack Love Online explains the dangers of internet romance fraud, including all the warning signs. Please ask your father to read it.

Regarding the money he has already sent, I suggest you both go and talk to his bank together.

There might be a chance they would refund it, but even if they don’t, the bank must be made aware of this fraudster’s account details.

Your father could be just one of many victims.

You can also take a look at actionfraud.police.uk for advice on dating fraud.

If you can send him that link and encourage him to read it, he might realise he is being tricked and cut off contact with this person.

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Horoscope today, February 2, 2025: Daily star sign guide from Mystic Meg

OUR much-loved astrologer Meg sadly died in 2023 but her column will be kept alive by her friend and protégée Maggie Innes.

Read on to see what’s written in the stars for you today. 

♈ ARIES

March 21 to April 20

As Venus moves into your zone of confidence, you feel the difference in your love style.

You’re ready to risk being yourself, instead of playing a passion part.

If you are single, this can reconnect you to a hot-to-handle Leo.

Friendships that carry a cost, in terms of cash or time, benefit from cool review.

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Your weekly horoscope for Sunday

♉ TAURUS

April 21 to May 21

As the love planet relocates, secrets in your heart can come to the surface – and be surprising well received.

Changes in a bond you’ve been thinking about for a while may move towards reality, boosting romance.

Single? New love waits where a charity plan is discussed.

Take control of cash with a light touch.

Get all the latest Taurus horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♊ GEMINI

May 22 to June 21

Godfather Jupiter takes a positive path, so from now until June you are on a Gemini roll.

People and projects that have frustrated you lately can seem clear again – your attitude can unlock treasure chests.

Mars might mess up a money system, but only to remake it bolder and better.

Passion is all to play for.

Get all the latest Gemini horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♋ CANCER

June 22 to July 22

Venus soars to the top of your chart and your love game is win-win.

When you stop settling for less and instead hold out for what your heart deserves, rules in love can ease.

This planet position can also bring cash success, repayment of debts and a top investment idea.

­Jupiter gold sets secrets free.

Get all the latest Cancer horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♌ LEO

July 23 to August 23

The adventure and challenge missing in love can return this week, and you are ready to fly.

Looking in a different direction for new dates is a brilliant tactic.

If you are settled, when you decide to ignore petty concerns and celebrate mutual strengths, something shifts.

You have choices, and they are good ones.

Get all the latest Leo horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♍ VIRGO

August 24 to September 22

Jupiter’s positive push in your zone of goals and dreams is a gift that keeps on giving.

You have a few months now of star support to get ambitions moving.

So make a list and make your move.

Mercury’s calm approach steers a creative scheme, but leaves space for your big ideas.

Love has deep inner strength.

Get all the latest Virgo horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

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­Jupiter gold sets secrets free[/caption]

♎ LIBRA

September 23 to October 23

Your happy-ever-after chart lights up with Venus’ arrival, and permanent love plans are on the table.

Be upfront about what you really need from your future.

Single? A local wedding venue can lead to dates.

Neptune’s tender touch softens tough work choices – you can win hearts and minds by being absolutely honest.

Get all the latest Libra horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

List of 12 star signs

The traditional dates used by Mystic Meg for each sign are below.

♏ SCORPIO

October 24 to November 22

You can’t give to others unless you sustain yourself.

Nurturing and strengthening yourself, maybe through solo pursuits, can feed back positively into passion.

And a face you have never noticed before during a daily task, leaps out at you.

Confusion about who deserves your loyalty clears thanks to Jupiter.

Get all the latest Scorpio horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♐ SAGITTARIUS

November 23 to December 21

You are the zodiac’s team captain, thanks to your ruler Jupiter – where you decide to lead, people will follow.

So consider every plan.

In love, finding the fun in serious commitment is your forte, and partners can feel new levels of connection.

If you’re single, the loudest laugh in a group is your strongest passion signal.

Get all the latest Sagittarius horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♑ CAPRICORN

December 22 to January 20

It’s time for authentic feelings only – if you’ve been faking it in any area, stop now.

Key planets supply the determination you need to stick to a plan, plus you have the element of surprise to swing a deal your way, however unlikely it may seem.

The moon mixes instinct with intent to meet a family deadline.

Get all the latest Capricorn horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

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♒ AQUARIUS

January 21 to February 18

Adding uncertainty into your communication style can encourage people to open up, so embrace any grey areas.

You can learn so much through this.

Mercury’s skills sharpen any application and can get you noticed.

Jupiter’s joy covers love, especially between parents and children.

Luck reverses postcode numbers.

Get all the latest Aquarius horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

♓ PISCES

February 19 to March 20

Second chances, in everything from emotions to earning, scatter your week with opportunity.

It’s up to you to seize it.

An address that has seemed out of reach can come closer as Jupiter spins direct, but it may mean big decisions.

Saturn’s support keeps you cool when a conversation nears boiling point.

Get all the latest Pisces horoscope news including your weekly and monthly predictions

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I keep dreaming about my ex from 20 years ago – is he still missing me?

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DEAR DEIDRE: WHAT does it mean when you keep dreaming about an old flame?

My ex finished our relationship 20 years ago.

He married someone else and moved away.

We’re both in our 60s now. I never wed.

My only contact with him is seeing his posts on social media.

Recently he shared on Facebook that his mum had died.

Since then, I’ve had three vivid dreams about him.

In them, we’re a couple again and I wake up happy.

My friend said dreaming about someone means they are missing you.

Should I reach out to him?

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DEIDRE SAYS: If your ex is now single and missing you, he will be in touch when you’re both awake.

In my experience, dreams reveal unresolved feelings about a situation.

You might not have come to terms with the relationship ending, despite it being long ago.

When you saw your ex’s post about his mum, you recalled a happier time.

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Chloe Brockett hits back at troll after they mock boyfriend Jack Fincham’s jail sentence on sexy lingerie post

CHLOE Brockett furiously hit back as a troll mocked her boyfriend Jack Fincham’s jail sentence.

Towie star Chloe, 24, shared a stunning mirror selfie video of herself modeling red lingerie on Instagram today.

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Chloe Brockett furiously hit back as a troll mocked her boyfriend Jack Fincham’s jail sentence[/caption]

She wrote in her caption: “It’s nearly Valentine’s Day.. what have you girls asked for?”

But one follower left a cruel comment following Jack’s six-week jail sentence, which he received after pleading guilty to two charges of being in charge of a dangerously out-of-control dog.

He was released on bail on Wednesday, ­pending an appeal.

They wrote: “Roses are red, violets are blue, a Valentine who’s not jail would be nice too!”

Chloe soon retaliated: Lluckily for me mines at home.. and you’re here hating from your phone.”

Writing the troll’s username, she added: “”ears sunglasses to hide how much of an a** he is.”

While he appeals his sentence, Jack has been freed from a short stint in jail and Chloe is sticking by him throughout the next stages.

Sharing a picture on Instagram of them cuddled on the sofa, Chloe simply wrote today: “Love you then @jack_charlesf.”

In the snap, Chloe was seen snuggling into Jack’s cheek while they both stare at the camera.

She had previously cried in the courtroom when Jack’s conviction and sentence was read out, but he was released just two hours later.

A pal told The Sun: “When the judge handed Jack a custodial sentence Chloe screamed out ‘no’. She was hysterical and had to be supported by family members as she repeatedly said ‘what am I going do without my best friend?’

“Jack tried to reassure Chloe by putting a thumbs up but that did nothing to calm Chloe as she was supported out of court.”

“People forget how young Chloe is because she’s been on our screens for so long but it’s a lot to deal with for a 24 year old girl,” they added.

“She was willing to pay anything to get Jack out on bail and home with her.

“The shock of thinking they would have to spend six weeks apart has brought them closer together.

“Chloe is Jack’s rock right now.”

Jack’s sog Elvis bit runner Robert Sudell in 2022 in Swanley, Kent, and attacked a woman in Grays, Essex, last June.

In court, he admitted two counts of being in charge of a ­dangerously out-of-control dog, with one of the incidents causing injury.

After the first incident in September 2022, Jack attended a dog behaviour course, and was given three rules to follow in order to avoid further trouble.

These were to always keep the dog on the lead, for the dog to wear a muzzle when outside and to not leave the animal alone with anyone under the age of 16.

His failure to comply let to the second incident in June 2024.

As part of the sentence, Jack was also ordered to pay £3,680 – including £200 compensation fee to Robert and a £50 compensation fee to the other victim.

But in December, prior to the trial, Jack took aim at the police in now-deleted Instagram messages, claiming the authorities wanted to jail him because his dog “scared someone”.

He wrote: “So my best friend is gone in police kennels.”

Comparing his situation to that of a rapist who avoided jail because of overcrowding, he said: “This county is done. Work it out for fs sake.”

And under a pic of himself smiling with his cane corso dog Elvis, he wrote: “F*** Essex Police, scumbags and jobsworth c***s. See you soon.”

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Jack and Chloe are determined to stick together, with Chloe being called “his rock”[/caption]
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The star’s dog, Elvis, attacked two people in two separate incidents[/caption]

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