A MAN has revealed that he is addicted to cheating on his wife with his boss.
Not only does the 42-year-old married man have email codes with his colleague, but they also rip each other’s clothes off and have sex in the office.
Unsure on what to do, the man, who is sleeping with his 38-year-old female boss, who is also married, took to social media to share all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/confession thread, the anonymous man, who writes under the username @badphilander, titled his post ‘I have been banging my boss for months at work’.
He then gave some context to the situation and explained: “I transferred to this office a little more than two years ago.
“We got along very well from the start, had a little flirtatious talk, eye contact, etc but nothing serious.
“We started going for coffee every couple days or so and it became a habit.
“Then we started talking more about personal lives and eventually were relating all kinds of personal stuff – marriages, kids, frustrations.”
But things quickly went to the next level when his boss asked him to go to her office at the end of the day.
He added: “I go in and she says, ‘can you close the door, please’. I’m thinking ‘uh-oh, what did I do’.
“Then she starts [talking] about she’s been thinking about something for weeks, asks me not to be offended, but she’s been thinking more and more about me and is very attracted to me and is there any chance I feel the same way?
“She’s extremely embarrassed and nervous and I am somewhat shocked, but I walk closer – I was thinking I would maybe pat her on the shoulder or hand and tell her to calm down, it’s no big deal.
“And before I know it we’re in each other’s arms kissing, then ripping each other’s clothes off.”
He confessed: “We did it on the couch in her office right then and there.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“We have now been doing this once or twice a week, always in her office (I don’t have one) – except for once in a server room – and either early in the morning or late in the day.
“One or the other of us will email a code phrase asking if it’s doable.”
Both of us feel awful about it. But we also apparently are addicted
Reddit poster
Whilst the pair know what they are doing is wrong, they are both ‘addicted’ to the ‘amazing sex’.
He admitted: “We are constantly saying we should stop, that each time will be the last.
“Both of us feel awful about it. But we also apparently are addicted.
Which generation is having the most sex?
A new report has lifted the lid on bedroom antics.
The research, conducted by experts at Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, revealed the average number of times people of different generations have sex per month.
- Gen Z – three times a month
- Millennials – five times a month
- Gen X – five times a month
- Boomers – three times a month
“And I must also confess that the sex is amazing. A lot of it has to do with the illicit nature of it and the location I’m sure.
“I know it has to end and I know it’s very wrong but I can’t seem to help myself.
“She is very attractive and very uninhibited, not to mention a good boss in other (strictly business) ways. I feel lost.”
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left stunned by the man’s confession and eagerly flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.
One person said: “This is an HR nightmare.”
Come clean with your wife. She probably already knows/suspects
Reddit user
Another added: “Hope you have other job options out there because you’ll be looking for them soon. Your poor wife.”
A third commented: “Man up and cut it out. You’re married, you have kids, and you have commitments you made to those things before this.
“If you can’t deal with those commitments then it’s time to get out. There is NO WAY this ends well -you get that, right?”
Whilst someone else advised: “Come clean with your wife. She probably already knows/suspects. Tell her you love her, and you’re sorry.”
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